Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Sunday, January 8, 2012
The art of deception
The title is just a term because there are many forms of deception. Those individuals that know of their deception they are the artists because they are fully aware of the picture they are seeking to paint. The old adage states "keep your friends close but your enemies closer". The other deceptor is that individual that doesn't realize they are being deceitful because of the way they have been all their lives.
Deception is such a negative term but it in actuality can have some positive effects on individuals. For instance if I had not learned of my deceptive ways in the past I would not be the individual I am today and recognize the pattern in others. There is an artform to deception and I will not go into this further. What I will say is I will have a book entitled Naked Conversations being published in March 2012.
In there you will read about the components of Naked Conversations and the myriad of human behavior that is incorporated and changed to get the best out of the conversations whether they are naked or clothed.
I am on the final chapters of the book so my extra time is devoted to completion. This has been a work in progress for many years. This book discusses the human behavior component of the individual from the controller, manipulator, deceptor, Alpha, Beta and then the free spirit. It discusses the trilogy of the self. It is an exciting exploration into my life of freedom in a unique way.
I look forward to sharing this exciting journey with my friends and family.
Deception is such a negative term but it in actuality can have some positive effects on individuals. For instance if I had not learned of my deceptive ways in the past I would not be the individual I am today and recognize the pattern in others. There is an artform to deception and I will not go into this further. What I will say is I will have a book entitled Naked Conversations being published in March 2012.
In there you will read about the components of Naked Conversations and the myriad of human behavior that is incorporated and changed to get the best out of the conversations whether they are naked or clothed.
I am on the final chapters of the book so my extra time is devoted to completion. This has been a work in progress for many years. This book discusses the human behavior component of the individual from the controller, manipulator, deceptor, Alpha, Beta and then the free spirit. It discusses the trilogy of the self. It is an exciting exploration into my life of freedom in a unique way.
I look forward to sharing this exciting journey with my friends and family.
Thursday, January 5, 2012
2012 - What's in store???
New Year, new resolutions, new you, new promises, the list goes on and on, that at the beginning of the new year we get a "rebirth" of our past. Why do we believe - that with the new year there is new changes? Why wouldn't we believe that new changes exist everyday in our lives? Why do we have to face the "hope", that the rolling over of a year, can make that much of a difference?
Why - because we are human and that is how our brain functions and our feelings flow. Through the many lots in life we have developed these "traditions" of new hope and rejuvenation. It was just recently, that I realized I didn't need a new year to be a new me. That change occurs daily in our lives and when I am ready to make the change, I just do it. The key to change - is to let go of the fear.
You ask How do I relinquish the fear? Ask yourself these series of questions:
1. What am I fearful of?
2. What is the cost? (This means what do I have to gain or lose by addressing this fear) Is it work the cost or risk?
3. What value is placed on that fear that you are not willing to let go?
Once you know, then you can move towards a more free life. I can't answer the questions for you, but I can help by asking the questions and allowing you to think about your fears.
Once you have identified the fears, then it is up to you to prioritize them, usually the easiest way to attack the elephant in the room is one bite at a time, starting with the easiest. I've talked about that before in the Quagmire of Life posting. Sometimes even the smallest change can have the largest ripple effect on our life good or bad.
One of my all time favorite quotes: Ralph Waldo Emerson - For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something else. These are words I live by because losing something is not such a bad thing. Human nature has the tendency to want to hold onto the past and wish our futures away. Why? Because we are on the constant quest for better and we sometimes miss the best because we had our heads turned in the other direction.
So 2012, just another year, but each day is a new change in my life what will it be for you?
Why - because we are human and that is how our brain functions and our feelings flow. Through the many lots in life we have developed these "traditions" of new hope and rejuvenation. It was just recently, that I realized I didn't need a new year to be a new me. That change occurs daily in our lives and when I am ready to make the change, I just do it. The key to change - is to let go of the fear.
You ask How do I relinquish the fear? Ask yourself these series of questions:
1. What am I fearful of?
2. What is the cost? (This means what do I have to gain or lose by addressing this fear) Is it work the cost or risk?
3. What value is placed on that fear that you are not willing to let go?
Once you know, then you can move towards a more free life. I can't answer the questions for you, but I can help by asking the questions and allowing you to think about your fears.
Once you have identified the fears, then it is up to you to prioritize them, usually the easiest way to attack the elephant in the room is one bite at a time, starting with the easiest. I've talked about that before in the Quagmire of Life posting. Sometimes even the smallest change can have the largest ripple effect on our life good or bad.
One of my all time favorite quotes: Ralph Waldo Emerson - For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something else. These are words I live by because losing something is not such a bad thing. Human nature has the tendency to want to hold onto the past and wish our futures away. Why? Because we are on the constant quest for better and we sometimes miss the best because we had our heads turned in the other direction.
So 2012, just another year, but each day is a new change in my life what will it be for you?
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